Young children who are starting school at their very early ages cry whenever they are taken to school. The reason is simple, they want to stay with dad and mum at home as that gives them much joy. School is one place to make friends and mingle with all manner of people who come from different families and locations.
This writing explains and expresses some thoughts on homesickness on the part of students, signs noticeable in the behavior of one who is homesick and how to manage it.
NB: This content is not from an expert in a field like PSYCHOLOGY but based on true experiences noticed from observing a number of students from different levels of education.
First of all, HOMESICKNESS is a strong desire or wish to return home while away from home (maybe at work, vacation, school etc)
Why would somebody who has gone to college or the university feel homesick? A number of factors are responsible for this.
Deprivation of parent's love
Individuals with responsible parents are who show love and affection towards their children have the wards missing those moments while away from home. This is to be a natural occurrence as the environment at school is totally different from that of home. The most frustrating moments for a student to feel homesick is when he or she has just began afresh. Without any prior knowledge of how the school environment is and what it holds for the students, it is a moment where only the hopeful are able to sustain themselves in strength that keeps them moving until they become familiarized with friends and the school surrounding.
Stress from academic work
The writer had had experiences of stress that results in a person feeling homesick and at times to an extent of feeling extremely restless. While at school, project works, assignments and other activities can at times become overwhelming. Someone with a low capacity to manage these becomes stressed and eventually get homesick. True story: A young guy went to Senior High School and as a year one student, the seniors were punishing them with loads of work. The guy ran away from the boarding house and decided not to return but stay with his parents. Upon interrogation with the guy, he was fresh in the school and some of the actions towards him were seen as uncomfortable and the only option was to find his way of exit.
Academic work whether huge or small is there to build the individual up for future roles but it takes a student of understanding to realize how beneficial loads of academic work is to him or her. Without that, it will seem a punishment when it is actually creating in the learners the attitude, character or a professional who is reliable.
Financial challenges
The ability to provide some essential needs is not there for all students due to the differences in backgrounds and families. If a student whose got plenty of stuffs to do doesn't have his or her basic needs well catered for, the mental trauma is something else. This also results in some resorting to return home as the best remedy. Learning but not yet working, making expenses but dependent on someone, it isn't easy to contain and it is what forces some to find some side or part time work as a support. Freelancing is one legitimate way to work and earn even as you learn.
Homesickness is something minor to worry about but there should be some signs being exhibited by a person who strongly wants to go home. Well, the indicative signs can be there but unnoticeable. From some observations, the person most of the time looks sad without a specific reason.
Learning effectively becomes a challenge because the mind is not really healthy to thrive academically.
Imagine a pilot in the air controlling an airplane with his mind on a football match he has watched yesterday. So far as the mind is not in the right psychological state, some level of productivity is reduced.
Remedy
Peculiar to everyone will be the remedies applicable to managing something like this. Someone might find consolation in reading books and get his mind settled but another maybe listening to Holy Spirit-filled songs. You can just call somebody from home and engage in a conversation as this also gives some form of relief and reduces restlessness that is behind the homesickness.
Vacation is a time to relax and reconnect with the family after many months of staying away. Find some time visiting the family to enter that expression of love from the family with unending laughter and joy to keep you cheerful.
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